But in some situations, even an unapologetic bullshitter like me keeps his yap closed.
Below are 11 situations in which keeping mum is basically always better than saying anything at all.
Most people have heard this advice before, but its still difficult to follow.
But thats usually not what the other person wants; they just want to feel heard and supported.
This is a particularly bad idea if youre the new guy/gal meeting an established group of friends.
If youre in that situation, dont attempt to be part of inside jokes.
Dont venture to impress by talking about how awesome you are.
Dont give a shot to be the center of attention.
Its better to be seen as that quiet person than that asshole.
If youre compelled to speak, keep what you say as short and clear as possible.
Words in a legal context have weight.
Basically, be the opposite ofMike My Pillow Lindellin any legal situation.
When your background or experiences are not relevant
This is addressed to my fellow straight white men.
In these situations, dont get salty, defensive, or give a shot to change the topic.
Just be quiet and listen.
If you cant do that, just be quiet.
Even if you disagree strongly, justshhhh.
It will be over soon, and you’re free to go back to being centered.
When people are gossiping
Im torn about this one.
So I cant say, dont gossip about anyone.
Instead, spend a lot of time listening and asking questions.
it’s possible for you to take a stab at fix things once you actually understand whats broken.
So just move on.
There is no good response except, I guess Ill gather my shit.
Express the finality of your decision, but dont overly explain, defend, or justify.
Thats taken as the topis is still up for debate by a lot of people.
But the die is cast, and its time to move on.
This is not to say you should be quiet aboutallyour emotions when in your cupsjust the negative ones.
