While our arrangement works, Ive wondered if it strikes the right balance between play time and me time.
This can be hard for young children to understand, and parents must choose their words carefully.
I will be able to when I finish work.
Right now, I need to finish preparing for tomorrow.
Would you like to play that game after I’m done?
Would you like to read with me?
Im really busy with dinner right now, and I could use your help.
Would you like to set the table or peel the carrots?
For example say, I wish I could play, but I have to go to work now.
Playing can happen tonight when we are both home, she said.
Show your child that you might handle their distress and be sensitive to how they feel.
Be sure to check in at the agreed time.
Of course, the goal is for your child to engage in independent play without any prompting.
This pop in of play leads to enhanced creativity and problem-solving skills.
It allows your child to experiment and develop their own interests without outside interference.
And, for many children, playing independently can be a calming activity.
The benefits extend to both the child and the parent by freeing up some much-needed time, Dilzell said.
This is for every parent and child to balance for themselves, Benjamin said.
These dont need to be around play, but they certainly can be.
Kilzell advises aiming for15 minutes of focused(rig-free) special time with your younger child every day.
If possible, let your child decide how to spend that special 15 minutes.
You might try a walk around the neighborhood or an afternoon dance party.
For older children, make special time at least once a week.
