Even the strongest, most in-sync couples can encounter bumps in communication in a relationship.
Here are five of those ways, and how to avoid them.
Assuming that more communication is the solution
Surprise!
It helps to understand your partners primary communication style.
Yup, try as we might, humans arent great at reading each others minds.
(We have a hard enough time understanding what wedocommunicate clearly to each other.)
You really cant assume that your spouse knows how you feel or what you want.
You dont share the same feelings, worldview or thoughts.
When in doubt, say it out loud.
Thats not something to cheer about.
In that case, its more like a one-lane street with two cars playing chicken with each other.
She becomes a diligent and insensitive lecturer, making forceful monologues that drown in defensive silence.
Nothing gets resolved; the relationship deteriorates further.
Both partners get exhausted and wary.
If youre the woodpecker, just stop talking.
Rest, regroup, and try a different approach.
This story was originally published on 3/4/14 and has been updated on 9/26/19 with new images.
