Its a great way to flirt and helps to foster connection and intimacy.
Plus, its an easy way to show someone youre thinking of them.
That is, when its used in an effective way.
Below, House shares her tips on the dos and donts of making texting work for your new relationship.
The texting DOs in a new relationship
Text them before they have a big meeting.
Text when you are away doing something fun without them… but only once.
Send a text while youre out of town, House suggests.
They dont need a play-by-play of what youre doing but its nice to know youre thinking about them.
Heres an example: Just had a great afternoon surfing with my friends.
Now we are heading for drinks.
I hope your day has been great too!
Text a picture of something special they mentioned on your date.
Made me think of you… Hope youre having a great day.
Play two truths and a lie.
you might make it deep or light, she says.
So in preparation for our date, lets give each other a little teaser to ponder….
Lets play Two truths and a lie: [insert your two truths and a lie].
Send a link to an article you think they will find interesting.
Send a link to a song on YouTube.
Plus a reason why it made you think of them.
We love to expand our playlists, she says.
Just be intentional with the song choice so your partner doesnt overanalyze the lyrics.
That should be done over a dating app, the phone, and in person.
Dont text in a friendly, check-in, hows your day way until after your second date.
Dont immediately jump to text after only one or two online dating exchanges.
Get to know each other better on the dating app first.
Dont ask them to entertain you.
Im bored, tell me something funny, or anything similar is not their responsibility.
Meaning you consistently send several texts before their reply.
Keep the messages short.
Dont sext until your relationships has progressed (and youve received consent).
