Will he figure out how to live it up solo?
Or will he realize theres not always a right way to do everything?
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Now that thats out of the way, lets get on with it:
Hey Patrick!
I have an awesome jealousy-inducing job, and Im financially free and dont need to work.
I travel a lot (maybe too much) for fun with friends/lovers.
Im happy with myself and my station in life.
Im an avid lifehacker, and am always learning/trying new things and have lots of hobbies/interests.
I like working on my routines and am pretty good with staying productive.
Theres just one thing I havent conquered that I think I need to do before committing to something long-term.
What should I be looking to get out of single life?
Is the point of single life to just do more self improvement?
I work on myself and my goals whether Im in a relationship or not.
What do you suggest?
Is my desire to understand single life even valid since I have my veritable ducks in a row?
Is there something Im not understanding correctly?
Should I be working as hard as I can on my goals while not having the distraction of women?
Do I need to be celibate?
What can I do to work more on myself?
What resources do you recommend?
When do I know that enough singleness is enough?
Single Life Novice
Hey Single Life Novice:
Resources?
You are in luck, my friend!
I have the ultimate guide to being single right
Oh,wait…
There is no actual guide to being single (despite what a cursory Google search might tell you).
And there is no clearly defined point to the single life.
Or you were forced into being single.
And you dont ever have to settle down if you dont want toyou can stay single forever.
Look for what feels right, SLN, not what other people say is right.
Look, youre a Lifehacker writers dreamyou are.
You actually take action and do all the things we write about to make yourself better.
Its awesome to see, but theres a hidden danger in that too.
Last week,I got onto someone for not taking action on good advice.
Theres not, so dont let it freeze you up.
Youre basically asking me to tell you what you want, and I have no freakin idea dude!
So, Ill turn this question cannon around so its aiming at the correct target.
There we go, lighting the fuse, and…
WHAT DO YOU WANT?!
Do you want to stay single?
Do you want to be with someone?
Maybe youre ready to settle down, but not with this person whos showing interest right now?
What would make you happy, both now and in the future.
Heres what Im going to recommend instead:
Let love happen.
Youre in a position where you could simply explore and see where your feelings lead you.
Keep an open mind and an open heart, and listen to your gut.
