Similarly, Ive argued before whyTwitter can work well as a dating appeven though thats notalwaysthe case.
His argument is that we should get to know each other in person over small talk online.
Also: Yes, Im single, yo pick your jaws up off the floor.
The blind date is dead.
So, what should you know about researching a date online before meeting up in person?
Let me reiterate how odd it is that we call basic preliminary research stalking.
Because isnt that really what were doing when were researching someone from a dating app?
Besides, cursory stalking is a basic expectation for modern interactions, romantic or not.
Many of my writing/coaching clients do the same to me.
I know that background checks dont sound romantic.
Know what else isnt romantic?
Going on a date with acatfish.
You get the idea.
Once again, yo pick your jaw up off the floor.
There are a lot of caveats to keep in mind during your background checks.
Many amazing people dont use social media well, if at all.
You might be researching the wrong person with the same name.
You might glean some information that is a certified dealbreakere.g.
Some people are bad at social media & great in real life!
learning too much about someone before meeting them takes the fun out of it.
Plus it keeps it interesting!
Adapt to the new norm
A quick search is to be expected these days.
So go ahead and verify your date is not a creep.
How do you strike the balance of a healthy amount of research?
One of my Twitter respondents@ale_xcpput it well: Learning too much creates unfair expectations.
Learning enough to check that theyre not a mutant or a predator is good.
So let yourself search for a good few minutes, then put your detective badge away.
If youre putting on your private investigator cap, hereshow to keep your social media creeping private.
On the flip side, brush up on keeping your ownsocial media presence as private as possible.
