Youve got problems, Ive got advice.
This advice isnt sugar-coatedin fact, its sugar-free, and may even be a little bitter.
Welcome to Tough Love.
I simply want to give you the tools you’re gonna wanna enrich your damn lives.
If for whatever reason you dont like my advice, feel free tofile a formal complaint here.
Now then, lets get on with it.
The school lunches are terrible, so they wont eat most of those.
Im trying to figure out some alternative options that give them nutrition and fulfillment.
Frankly, if theyre old enough to complain, theyre old enough to make their own lunches!
Not every meal is a smorgasbord of your greatest mouthwatering desires.
Sometimes food is just fuel so you’ve got the option to go learn shit.
I have had some physical experience, but nothing consistent.
It just doesnt feel like they are ever all that into me or are interested in sticking around.
I do have a theory as to why Im struggling, of course.
I am originally from Israel.
I always found Israeli girls a lot more straightforward and easier to engage with.
Are Australians just more timid?
Or are they just not attracted to me?
I have zero dating experience and I only really know how to make things happen in a party environment.
I never asked someone on a date before.
I dont know what the socially acceptable way is.
And I find it impossible to know when a girl likes me or if any of them do.
I have no idea how to get from the dating phase to the physical stuff.
What sort of stuff do you do on a date anyhow?
Sincerely,
Desperate Down Under
Hey Des,
So youre 19 and frustrated because youre not getting any action?
Join the club, they have jackets.
Im only kiddingtheyre not jackets, theyre pretty pink sashes that read yo love me.
I think I have mine buried somewhere in my closet.
But heres the problem: yourewaitingfor girls to walk up to you and tell you that they like you.
In fact, I just did, but you cant hear it because this is text.
Asking someone on a date is actually the easy part, my man.
You simply ask if theyd like to grab coffee/get a drink/go to an event/hang out with you sometime.
Thats totally socially acceptable.
Its actually the lead up to the asking thats therealhard part.
She might not be down, but rejection is a reality youll have to face.
If going through this process face-to-face seems like too much for you,try dating apps!
Its not quite the same as talking in person, but every little bit of practice helps.
In regard to getting to the physical stuff, I feel the need to clarify things for you again.
Theres no dating phase and then a physical phase.
Physical stuffis partof dating, and it will usually happen organically.
I get that youre frustrated, dude, but dont make getting physical your main goal.
Also, its sad, gross, and desperateand women can smell desperation from a mile away.
This Young Professional Is Buried in Debt But Wants to Write
I am miserable.
Ive been working here 3 years.
Ive been scouring job boards and LinkedIn for opportunities to no avail.
Should I, given the circumstances, shoulder my misery for the sake of my paycheck and stay put?
Best,
Miserable TV Junkie
Hey Junkie,
Lifeisworth living.
In truth, thats all its really good for.
Im not asking, Im telling.
Youre already better off than a lot of people I know!
It sucks now, but it wont always suck if you stay vigilant.
Dont go chasing happinessit will backfire.
It sucks, but you could endure, trust me.
Lots of people have done it.
You might want to thank your lucky stars theyre willing to let you stay with them too.
Adjust your perspective a little bit, Junkie, and youll realize things arent all that miserable.
Theres plenty you’ve got the option to do during this timelike writing!
You want to be a screenwriter (Im assuming)?
You dont become a screenwriter bywanting to be one.
If youre wondering why this is your best course of action, heres some hard, fast truth.
So, regardless of what youre doing now, its totally possible down the line.
Thats the good news.
The bad news is there are really only two ways to move into entertainment.
Laterally, as I mentioned, which, in your case, would probably require you to know someone.
IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT WHO YOU KNOW.
Like, not even close.
DO NOT DO IT, at least not until those loans are paid off.
So how do you meet people in the business who can help?
Look for writing groups, events, or festivals focused on screenwriting.
I also get right to the crux.
I want to call it Hard Truth.
Should I even bother?
If I should, how do I get an audience and submissions?
Nah, dont bother.
Maresays:
Dearest Paddy,
Im struggling with a quarter-to-mid-career crisis.
Expect a kick in the ass in the mail.
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I live in LA.
Dating is horrible and I am over it.
Seriously, I was on a TV show for dating and nothing panned out.
Also, I am never going to be able to afford a house here.
I am not running from anything, [Im] happy with life.
I simply want to live somewhere other than LA.
I work in tech, what would you suggest?
Wait… You DIDNT find true love on a reality TV show?!
), but it can also be pretty awesome.
Im not sure how much worse it is here compared to other cities.
You work in tech?
I hear Raleigh, North Carolina isnt too shabby.
Neither is Austin or Dallas, Texas.
Maybe evencheck out Colorado Springs.
