I once briefly dated a guy whose entire Twitter feed was about biking.
Hes a great guy, after all, but we had very different interests.
So what do you do when you hate your partners social media presence?
And at what point does annoying online behavior cross over into being a legitimate red flag?
If they keep retweeting Paul Ryan, well, theres a good chance they like Paul Ryan.
If they keep retweeting themselves, they might be slightly narcissistic, or real thirsty for favs.
Pamela Rutledge, director of the Media Psychology Research Center.
You arent the same person.
Good relationships arent when people are perfectly the same.
Its when they can come together and share.
Online red flags are real, and should not be ignored.
People show you who they are.
The fact is, if someone is abusive online, theres a good chance theyre abusive offline, too.
Social media is an extension of our social world, Rutledge says.
Social media doesnt make us do anything we would not do otherwise.
When you have conversations like that, its really important that you own your thing, Rutledge says.
With the latter, you have room to be more skeptical.
If youre in a relationship, you dont want to do things that upset the other person.
I dont want to see my partner flirting with people online as if theyre available.
I dont want to see them abusing people online in a way that I think is unkind or disrespectful.
Tone of voice, facial expression, all of that.
Without that, some people get more negative or aggressive.
But dont dismiss how you feel.
Dont blow off anything, Chandra says.
If somethings troubling you, then it needs clarification.
Its totally fine to set these kinds of boundaries.
And if you happen to like dudes who love bikes, Ive got someone for you to meet.
