Difficulty reaching orgasm is typically thought of as a female problem, but thats an unfair and harmful stereotype.
The reality is that male orgasm is not a guarantee.
If you struggle to reach orgasm, heres your game-plan.
Have you struggled with orgasm for your entire life, or have there been recent changes?
Has it been easier to orgasm with certain partners, but not others?
Or at certain periods in your life, but not others?
Is it situational, or does it happen every time?
See Your Doctor
Medications and medical conditions can make it harder or impossible to reach orgasm.
Its a good idea to book an appointment with your doctor to talk about potential medical factors.
Some of the most frequent causes of orgasmic blockages include:
Prescription drugs.
Sounds obvious, I know, but so many people fail to make the connection.
Do your dick (and the rest of your body) a favor and either practice moderation or quit.
In these cases, masturbation is one of the most frequent causes of orgasmic difficulties.
A lot of men masturbate in the exact same way, every single time.
Were all familiar with the death grip by this point, right?
Its when you masturbate using an extremely firm grip.
The same goes for having one specific technique, or always watching porn to get to orgasm.
The best masturbation advice I can give is to switch up your routine as often as you might.
Dont masturbate in any particular way more than 50% of the time.
Or you might take breaks to masturbate.
Here are just some of those reasons:
Hes feeling guilty about having sex.
Sometimes this is religious or moral guilt.
Sometimes its because hes doing something he knows he shouldnt, like cheating on his partner.
If his partner is female, he doesnt want to get her pregnant.
Even if theyve agreed to attempt to get pregnant, he may be feeling conflicted about becoming a parent.
Hes worried about contracting an STI.
Hes been sexually abused in the past.
(Another stereotype is that men are never the victims of sexual abuse.
Thats just not true.)
Theres a lot of discord in his relationship.
Sometimes his partner may even be mocking him or upset with him for having a hard time reaching orgasm.
Hes under a lot of stress in general.
One of the things I catch myself saying over and over again is, Your penis isnt a machine.
It responds to the dynamics going on in the rest of your life.
Sometimes your penis is trying to tell you something by refusing to cooperate with your plans.
Some men are overly focused on their partners, and not very much on themselves.
Its OK for you to want and need foreplay, focused or other specific types of stimulation.
And your pleasure is just as important as your partnersremind yourself of that in the moment.
Your body needs something to respond to; its not just going to orgasm out of nowhere.
Here are some ideas to try:
Get in the mood with erotica or porn.
Ask your partner for a hand job or blow job.
Incorporate anal play, if you dont already.
Try a sex toy.
A vibrating cock ring or couples toy can feel amazing.
Or try a butt plug.
Watch yourselves in the mirror.
Use lubeit can greatly heighten sensation.
