A few months ago, I wrotean article for men who struggle with orgasm.
Today, Im back to share my advice for women.
First, See Your Doctor
Female orgasmic challenges can be rooted in medical issues.
Some of the most frequent causes of orgasmic blockages include:
Prescription drugs.
Drugs and alcohol makes it much harder for women (and men) to orgasm.
Alcohol in particular tends to be problematic.
Women tend to have orgasmic problems because theydontmasturbate.)
Check out my article onlearning to love masturbationfor more advice on technique.
In general, direct or indirect clitoral stimulation tends to work best for most women.
take a stab at get a sense of the most pleasurable zone on your body.
Whats the specific technique you use?
What does your body respond to?
What does it not respond to?
This is all valuable information, and Ill describe what to do with it later.
Try a Vibrator
If youve never had an orgasm, I recommend trying out a vibrator.
If youre expecting it to be a non-stop pleasure party, youre going to be disappointed.
Adjusting your expectations is also important when it comes to orgasm itself.
When you are first learning how to orgasm, your orgasms arent going to be that intense.
Women expect fireworks and earthquakes the first time, so they overlook the more subtle reactions in their bodies.
For now, imagine that your orgasm will feel justslightlymore pleasurable than what youve felt through masturbation thus far.
Youll learn how to make them stronger later.
If you put time and effort into developing a solid masturbation routine, you will learn how to orgasm.
Do you feel guilty or ashamed about touching your body?
Do you have a hard time letting a partner focus on you?
Are you overly perfectionistic in every area of your life, including your orgasm?
give a shot to identify the specific blockages that are coming up for you.
I like to walk my clients through a process I call the polite brushoff.
You know when youre at a party, and you see someone you really dont want to see?
You acknowledge them, but you dont pay any additional attention to them.
you’re able to do the same with your negative beliefs about masturbation and orgasm.
You wont allow your partner to focus on you.
Above, I recommended paying more attention to what you do when you masturbate.
This is valuable information that needs to be shared with your partners.
Remember: Its OK to have needs!
In your quest to learn how to orgasm, dont forget that orgasms arent everything.
