Im too tired is the most common reason we turn down sex.
(I have a headache is a close second.)
If youre exhausted all the time, thats a pretty good sign that something needs to change.
Theres just no getting around the fact that sleep is an essential part of our lives.
I highly recommend working on your sleep hygiene.
These tips arent that hard, and they can make a surprisingly big difference.
Then clear out your commitments and prioritize getting home from work early the day of.
Check outthis article that I wrote about how to schedule sex and still enjoy it.
So many of us wait until the very end of the evening to even think about having sex.
But by the time your head is hitting the pillow, its just too late.
At that point, sex feels like a sleep thief.
Instead, venture to have sex as early in the day or evening as possible.
Or try for morning sex!
In the short term
OK, so lets say that youve neglected the advice above.
Its 11:47 at night, and your partner scoots over to your side of the bed.
Youre exhausted, but beneath the exhaustion, you actuallydowant to be intimate with your partner.
You just wish you werent so damn tired.
Here are some additional steps you’re free to take.
But after they have sex, they think, Wow, that was actually really fun.
Why dont I do that more often?
That can give you a little extra motivation to get going in the moment.
Shake off the sleepiness.
Do a little stretching or some tidying up.
Push your partner up against the wall and make out with them standing up.
Sometimes getting out of bed and getting your body moving can give you a jolt of energy.
This can help get your energy up as well.
