Then she disappeared forever…
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During the week everything was great or seemed great.
Talking on the phone, texting, etc.
The date lasted about two hours and we had a few drinks.
Plus, we had all that great conversation before our date.
I think Im just confused.
Should I just let it go and move on?
We live real close to each other, and have a lot in common.
Any help or advice would be great.
Thanks,
Ghost Hunter
Hey Ghost Hunter:
Welcome to online dating!
Its only been a few days, GH, so play it cool.
Its possible that shes been busy or traveling and just hasnt had the time to respond to you.
Also, she doesnt have to answer you in a timely manner if she doesnt want to.
Some people want space after they meet someone for the first time.
That saidbrace yourselfwhat probably happened isshe ghosted you, dude.
So, heres what you do:
You ready, GH?
Okay, here it is… You went on a date and things didnt clickoh well, move on.
There are a million possible reasons why she would ghost you.
Here are some examples of how random those reasons can be:
She didnt feel an immediate spark.
You didnt lookexactlylike your photo.
She didnt understand a joke you made.
You like the wrong sports teams.
Her friend told her that you looked like someone she knew.
She got sick the next day and forgot about you.
Shes dating multiple people and someone else stood out.
You said you hated cats.
She realized shes not ready to date again.
You ordered a Moscow Mule and she judges you a little bit.
Shes still in love with her ex and you helped her realize that.
You wore a yellow shirt.
You never will and you’re gonna wanna be okay with that.
Something like:
Hey!
I had a really great time with you last week.
Let me know if you want to do it again sometime!
:)
After that, no more.
If there is no response, its game over with her.
In the meantime, keep seeing what else is out there.
Expect to meet a lot of people while exploring the world of online dating.
Good things come to those who waitand to those who dont freak out when someone ignores them.
