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My husband and I have been married for six months, but the last two months has been miserable.
Whenever he is gaming he is short, curt, and very rude to me.
I want him to have fun but I also want to be respected and to be a priority.
I no longer ask him to spend time with me or ask if he wants to do things.
I tell him what I am doing and leave the door open.
However, sex has all but stopped and we fight about it.
He always gets mad or upset and his instinct is to push me away.
I dont know what to do.
He rarely opens up to me as it is when he is upset.
I want my marriage to be a success, but ugh.
just,
Terrified Newlywed
Hey Terrified Newlywed:
Hes definitely taking your marriage for granted, TN.
He thinks hes crossed some imaginary checkpoint in your relationship and doesnt have to try anymore.
you oughta make him understand thats not the case.
However, youve also dug yourself into a bit of a hole here.
You inadvertently made something else he loves out to be the enemy.
First, do not talk to him about this stuff while hes gaming, or immediately after.
Take the pressure off.
Talk about this stuff when video games are the furthest thing from his mind.
Third, see if you’ve got the option to find a way to compromise here.
Dedicated gaming time might lead him to being more open to do other things on non-gaming nightslike have sex.
To him, sitting down and starting to play a game with friends is a social commitment.
Plan some fun dates that get him off his ass and out of the house.
Help him find the excitement in the real world again.
