(Its also the most common advice doctors give to women who have never had an orgasm.)
Read on for my advice on how to figure out why your sex drive disappeared.
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Check Your medicine cabinet
Medications can also frequently cause a decrease in libido.
Cholesterol-lowering medications, like Lipitor and Crestor
Anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications, like Prozac, Paxil, and Zoloft.
That may work at certain points of our lives or relationships, but its not a successful long-term strategy.
Your sex drive needs your ongoing support to flourish.
Try asking yourself this question: Does my lifestyle support a healthy sex drive?
Here are some factors to consider:
Do you even have the time to be intimate?
Or is every single minute of your day scheduled?
Do you have the energy to feel desire?
Are you taking care of your body by feeding it healthy foods, exercising, and getting enough sleep?
Do you have a good environment for having sex?
Take a look at your bedroom, or wherever you most frequently have sex.
Ive found that people often underestimate just how much of an effect our surroundings have on our desire.
Does your space inspire desire?
Or has it become cluttered, messy, and distracting?
The differences in your sex drives can cause issues too.
If youre having problems in your relationship, I highly recommend seeking out a couples counselor or sex therapist.
Even if things are fine in your relationship, it can still be worthwhile to see a sex therapist.
you might also get ideas for reigniting the spark in your relationship.
Think about the sex youve been having
Your sex drive is a self-perpetuating cycle.
That old saying use it or lose it sounds horribly cheesy, but its sort of true.
It just doesnt make much sense to feel strong desire for something that isnt that enjoyable.
The truth is that maintaining an active and satisfying sex lifeand the accompanying sex drivetakes a lot of work!
If you put effort into having better sex, youll probably notice your sex drive improve as well.
Most people have pretty intense sex drives as teenagers.
Desire can be more subtle as we get older, but that doesnt mean its not there.
Or you may be more sensitive about needing to set the mood with candles or music.
