I tell my four-year-old daughter to be careful so often that Ive abbreviated it to caref.
Its become an instinctual tick.
[Shes about to climb out of the bathtub.]
[Shes swimming near the pool rail.]
[Her knee is really close to her baby cousins face.]
[Shes skipping inside a clothing store.]
The words can even be damaging.
Caroline Paul, who has given a wonderful TED Talk onraising brave girls, writes that Be careful!
falls under the insidious language of fear.
Kids do need guidance, but the reminders should apply to the situation at hand.
Remember that there are friends underneath you as youre dropping sand down the slide.
Remember that sticks can be sharp.I like that a lot.
Eperjesi givesa list of Be careful alternatives when it comes to playing in nature.
Here are some that can be used in all types of situations:
Stay focused on what youre doing.
What is your next move?
Do you feel safe there?
Does that branch feel strong and stable?
Im here if you need me.
like find a safe spot for your stick while youre running.
Watch out for other people and give them lots of space.
Lets move to this lower-traffic zone.
Sarah, look around youdo you have enough space to swing that big stick?
hey keep one end of your stick on the ground!
Whats your plan with that big stick?
Before you throw that rock, what do you should probably look for?
That rock looks really heavy!
Can you manage it?
hey move slowly and carefully near the ___.
Do you feel stable/balanced?
Do you need more space?
Make eye contact before you tackle someone.
confirm they know you are coming so that they can get their body ready.
Check in with each other.
check that everyone is still having a good time.
Ask her if shes ok.
Ask him if hes still having fun.
Did you like that?
confirm you tell her if you didnt like that.
If it’s crucial that you run, meet me at the next trail marker!
Lets check this cave/fort to confirm its safe to hide in.
