This week we have a lady who cant stand it when her boyfriend gawks at other women.
Will she finally tell him how it makes her feel and get the respect she deserves?
Or will he be too busy staring at other girls to see her walking away for good?
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Help!
My boyfriend of six months wont stop gawking at other women when we are together in public.
It seemed like the perfect getaway.
Cut to me beside him, looking beautiful.
I always make an effort and Im blessed with good genes.
But Im also trying to recover from a messy divorcestill pendingand an abusive marriage.
Then he expects my panties to hit the floor when we are finally alone together?
Go fuck yourself dude, literally, because I dont want to.
His disrespect towards me makes me want to run for the hills.
First off, know that its normal for people of all sexes toglanceat other people.
When we glance its because we naturally find someone physically attractive, plain and simple.
We are animals attracted to beauty, with biological instincts that sometimes get the best of us.
Notice I said glance above, not stare or gawk.
That is totally disrespectful to you, and her!
Whats worse is youve expressed your displeasure toward his gawking in the past and he continues to do it.
This conversation is NOT:
You yelling at him.
You telling him to go fuck himself, as much as you may want to.
Dont give him the opportunity!
He knows you dont like him looking, Feeling Small, but he needs to understandwhy.
But go in with realistic expectations here, Feeling Small.
Hes not going to magically stop seeing other beautiful women in the world.
If he doesnt, you tell him to gawk at you as you walk away.
There are plenty of mature men out there who can control themselves.
