Is she being unreasonable and ignoring him?
Or is this dude expecting way too much?
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She moved away, and we became long distance for about 3 years.
There was an incident in our relationship in which I broke it off so she could date other people.
Long distance for three years is crazy difficult for people your age.
Youre both changing a lot and finding yourselves.
You should both see what else is out there.
Dont hold each other back.
Months later we got back together online.
Communication was great, we even sent each other snail mail.
Thats not ideal, but its cute, I guess.
However, things started changing slowly.
Im guessing a few hundred miles apart, at least.
Maybe shes busy living her life or something?
Glad we talked this throughOh, theres more…
So the communication got better after that, and we kept talking.
Wait, is she your best friend or a romantic interest?
Long distance is tough for any kind of relationship.
You know what, it doesnt matter!
Have you even considered how she might feel about all of this?
Im guessing she feels obligated to apologize to you now, even though she doesnt really owe you anything.
She apologized…
Swish!
And now shell make some kind of promise to keep you from getting all aggro.
…and said that she would talk to me every day and call me at night.
Way to corner her, man.
Theres no way this lasts for long.
Either way, this isnt going to work out.
That lasted for 3 days until she fell back into the same old habits.
Take the hint, guy.
This is whats known as a soft no.
Any advice would be massively appreciated.
Thanks,
Confused College Student
You want some advice, CCS?
Here it is: leave long-distance girl alone.
Shes not feelin it anymore, shes moved on, and you should do the same.
People grow and change and relationships end.
If you actually like this new girl youre dating, give her an honest shot.
Maybe youre better off taking some time to yourself and unloading this baggage, you know?
I know you feel like youve been mistreated here, CCS, but thats just not the case.
Your expectations need some adjusting.
