When You Should (and Shouldn't) Date Someone Newly Single

You met someone great.

However, they are newly single.

So how soon is too soon to date someone who just got out of a relationship?

After all, isnt it wise to let someone grieve and process their breakup?

And if they havent fully done that, wouldnt it spell trouble for your budding romance?

However, she points out that many relationships are truly over months if not years before the final goodbye.

And thats the key: intention.

Its best to date intentionally after a breakup.

And it could spell heartache for you if you are dating someone whos newly single.

But every situation is nuanced.

Below are her tips on what to know about dating someone who just got out of a relationship.

This is your time to ask them questions so you’re free to get some clarity.

Also dont assume that they want some time to play the field before committing again, she says.

Every individual is different.

And that can happen immediately.

What are some good questions to ask someone whos just had a breakup?

How long have they been single?

What caused the breakup?

When did they know it was over?

What steps did they take to give a shot to save or fix the relationship?

How do they feel towards their ex?

What would they do if their ex came back and promised they changed and wants another chance?

What did they learn from the breakup?

What are they doing differently now moving forward?

What did they love about their ex?

What initially attracted them to their ex?

What did their friends/family think about their ex?

If they were in your position, would they be comfortable dating themselves?

They might also talk a lot about their ex, be it good or bad.

Its really normal to feel insecure about someone who is newly single.

Someone hiding their phone or turning it upside down when they arent on it.

They still see or communicate with their ex regularly.

They check in with you and how youre feeling for improve the chance of a successful relationship.

Communication creates clarity, which creates confidence, she saya.

Communicate how you feel, what you need, and how they feel and what they need.